I’ve said many times here that I’m lucky to have found Karen.
Or, I should say… I’m lucky she chose to finally give me the time of day after much persistence.
We’ve got a good thing, and I recognize that. But despite Karen’s appreciation for “chick flick” romances where everything is rosy because of cosmic forces and overpowering love… marriage takes work.
I can see you nodding your heads.
Some people fall into a rut in their relationships, and they wonder what happened.
It used to be so easy. You could just look at each other and everything was right in the world.
But marriage is no different than your physical health. If someone told you to join a gym, and you went once and said “Okay, now I’m fit,” you’d think he was nuts.
Getting fit (and staying there) requires regularly working at it. Day by day, throughout your life.
Sometimes, you need a reminder of what got you here. And when I think Karen and I are sliding into complacency, we try to recharge.
One way is to flip through old photo albums. There’s nothing like pulling out the wedding album and looking at the joy in your faces to rekindle a little reminder of why you’re right here, right now.
I can remember my father every so often calling us kids into a darkened living room, with a bowl of popcorn on the coffee table.
In the back of the room was a slide projector (does anyone even have those anymore?).
In the front, a sheet tacked to the wall as a screen. For hours, we’d laugh and point at the old pictures of when my father was in the service, when he first met Mom, and shots of us as tiny kids, with clothes we’d mock or teddy bears we’d long since lost.
And I’d see my folks looking at each other and enjoying the show, both on the screen and in that room.
Maybe Dad knew something it takes marriage counselors and therapists (and loads of time and money) to deliver to couples these days.
Remembering good times helps bring good times to the present.
Maybe you should dig out a photo album today yourself. I know I’m going to…
Enjoy the rest of your weekend.
Editor, Patriot Health Alliance