Last week I mentioned a few things my dad taught me growing up that have stuck. Even now.
And I think I touched a nerve, because a lot of you wrote back thanking me for sharing these reminders.
But not everything I know came from someone else. Some things I’ve had to learn on my own.
Sure, when my dad taught me to be kind, it clicked. And it has been reinforced through church, my marriage and even watching my kids grow older.
But the benefits of being kind far outweigh the effort you put in. And I’ve learned that first-hand, whether it’s a “random act of kindness” for a stranger, a favor for a friend, or just a smile to someone you run across who it’s clear could use one.
It’s why the charity work and contributions we’ve been able to make to valuable military and veterans charities are so humbling. It’s what makes doing what we’re doing here so rewarding. And I thank you for that.
Now, one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned, and I’ve tried to teach, is this: everyone is as worried and insecure as you are. No, really.
Even those people who seem to have it all together, who may even feel intimidating with their “perfection”… they’re just as confused and conflicted and facing their own struggles as you are.
They’re just better at hiding it. And that doesn’t make them any better, smarter, or “perfect” than you are.
I’ve been fortunate to meet lots of “important” people over the years. And that may seem scary at first.
But if you remember, as my mom used to say, we “all put on our pants the same way,” it’s easy to recognize, that a “VIP” is just another human being.
And when you treat them as such, sometimes it’s so unusual to them, you really stand out.
Finally, here’s something else to remember…
You know yourself better than anyone else does. Other people’s opinions are not something that should control you, what you say, what you do, or who you are. An opinion from someone else is just a suggestion.
One you can take, or leave, as you see fit.
I’m not saying to walk through life oblivious to how you appear to others. Or completely ignore your place among your family, friends and the people you meet on the street.
But just remember that you are in control of you, and you know what’s best for you, too.
And that goes for what I say here. I hope I’ve given you some useful advice, and I really appreciate you reading this. But my job isn’t to change you, or force something upon you that’s not right for you.
I’m here to give you options. The decision to do or not to do… that’s up to you.
But if you want positive change in your life, it’s usually not going to happen by accident. You have to want it, then get up off your duff and go after it.
Something to think about.
Enjoy the rest of your weekend.
Editor, Patriot Health Alliance