Why your wife doesn’t respect you (Jeff’s male/female talks)

This is an important topic for both men and women…

And it all revolves around a guy I play raquetball with named Greg.

Greg has been married for over 25 years and is now in his mid fifties.  Greg is your typical nice-guy.

He never really ruffles anyone’s feathers, never gets in the way and just sort of blends in wherever he goes in life.

Greg is like the human equivalent of vanilla ice cream.

One day after we finished playing raquetball, his wife happened to show up at the gym and out of the corner of my eye I saw her berating him like he was a little kid who needed a time out.

I tried not to watch, but like a bad train-wreck I couldn’t stop watching…

After she was done chewing-him-out, Greg and I packed up our gym bags and we headed out to our cars…

On the way out, Greg started to explain to me what was going on…

“She just walks all over me.  I’m not even sure what to do at this point.  Did you see that?  I felt like I was being lectured by my mother!”  Greg said…

I wasn’t really sure if Greg was looking for advice from me or if he just wanted to vent, but I decided to give him my thoughts anyway.

“Look, I don’t know what’s going on between you two, but unless I screwed up royally, I would never let anyone speak to me like that”  I said…

I continued “You’re a good guy.  I’ve seen you with your kids and you’re a great father.  I’m not a therapist, and feel free to tell me to “bug off” if you want but I think I know what your problem is…”

“What’s that?” Greg replied

“You’re not decisive and you need to grow a backbone.  I’ve seen you with your wife when we’re at dinner and when we were at that birthday party a few weeks ago.  Your wife walks all over you because you let her.

 Deep down she wants you to stand up for yourself and  be the “man” in the relationship.  Everytime you let her walk all over you, she just gets more upset inside that you’re being so weak” I said…

Now here’s where it gets interesting…

I was pretty blunt with what I said to Greg.  I didn’t sugarcoat anything.

He was a bit taken back when I said it.

I figured he was not going to take to kindly to what I said…

And he didn’t at first.

He got upset…told me I just didn’t understand the situation.

Fast forward to earlier this week and it’s been about 3 weeks since that chat with Greg.

I saw him walk by the raquetball courts and said hello.

While I was getting ready for raquetball he pulled me aside to chat.

“You know, you were right what you said last time.  I didn’t want to admit it, but it was something I had already been thinking about.  Just in the last few weeks I’ve started to make some small changes – being more decisive, taking charge more often and I’m already seeing a turn-around in how my wife reacts to me” he said…

When Greg told me that, I had a big smile on my face.

“Glad to hear” I said…

Now here’s the point I want you to take away from this story…

A lot of problems in a marriage (or in a relationship) stem from the man being indecisive and taking a back seat.

And no matter how much the politically correct crowd tries to tell you that everything should be “equal” in a marriage this idea still holds true.

Women love to be with a man that takes charge, makes decisions and gives her the freedom to relax.

Even making simple decisions like what restaurant you’re going to eat at for dinner is a good start.

(It’s a heck of a lot better than never having a plan and always asking your wife what she wants to do)

Cause here’s the truth…

She gets joy out of you being decisive.

She likes to feel that she can rely on you to make the tough choices that  go on in your life.  

This means she doesn’t have to get stressed out and make the decisions.

And most women love that.

Keep that in mind…

Alright, that’s all for today.

Enjoy your day.

God Bless,

– Jeff Reagan
Founder, Patriot Health Alliance

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